You may’t make a sequence about marriage with out addressing the subject of divorce. Not if you wish to name it someway all-encompassing. Worldwide, roughly 40% of first marriages finish in divorce. In the US it’s about 45% (the proportion in Portugal is ridiculously excessive for some purpose). In Japan it’s barely decrease, primarily as a result of the legislation (and societal strain) makes it troublesome for ladies to divorce if the person doesn’t agree. However even right here it quantities to about 35%. It is the specter that hangs over each wedding ceremony, there isn’t any level in denying it.
I am the final one that ought to be speaking about marriage with authority, to make certain. However I’ve a number of household expertise with unhealthy ones, and I’ve come to imagine that one thing worse than a divorce is a pair who ought to have gotten one to remain collectively. Marriage is extremely troublesome, I believe that is arduous to argue with. It is maybe one of the unnatural issues individuals are uncovered to within the fashionable world, and in a means it appears virtually miraculous that some {couples} – even a minority – handle to be (and keep) completely satisfied collectively.
Even marriages of comfort are troublesome – as evidenced by the stress between Takuya and Rika. He has no thought why she’s giving him the chilly shoulder, however lacks the boldness to ask her outright. For her half, Rika actually has no proper to snub Takuya over the Nao factor since he hasn’t achieved something incorrect. She brings her personal baggage, however that is what occurs to {couples}. An obvious distinction to that is Shinshi Shou (Present Kentarou). He appears to be the epitome of a contented marriage, having fun with the attractive bentos his spouse makes for him and bragging about how fortunate he’s to have her.
Shinshi-san looks as if the final type of individual to desert his work and abandon his colleagues. However that is precisely what occurs when he would not present up at some point. Nobody has any thought the place he’s, after which his son Hideo (Is Mary) reveals up at JTC with a enterprise card in search of his father. One in all my favourite elements of this episode is the way in which George-san (Nakata Joujiat all times a delight) – the obvious icon of slack – takes cost of the scenario. Is there something in his historical past that makes him an professional on this area? That is not made clear (nor whether or not he is truly Hawaiian or only a Japanese obsessive about it, as some are), however he imposes his will on the disaster and sends Takuya with Hideo to seek out Shinshi.
George is actually proper when he says Takuya is the person for the job. He’s variety and pure with youngsters, however he cannot do a lot for Hideo besides consolation him. When {couples} break up, it is clearly arduous on them, but it surely’s arduous to have an excessive amount of sympathy when grown adults depart a baby Hideo’s age to fend for themselves whereas they wallow in self-pity. Ultimately (why did not he say that initially) George sends Takuya to an area bar with “Feng Shui for Depressed Guys” the place he thinks Shinshi is perhaps drowning his sorrows. And certain sufficient, he is there – as is a lot of the workplace after they collect on the location.
Whereas this episode is pleasurable 12 months tends to get slightly too loopy at instances, it undoubtedly performs into the larger themes. A very powerful takeaway from the Shinshi scenario is that this, I believe. He is not mendacity when he says he was 100% completely satisfied, and due to this fact utterly unprepared, when his spouse dropped the bomb on him. That occurs. When a pair is disconnected, they might understand a relationship in diametrically opposed methods. Rika would not inform Takuya why she’s maintaining him chilly. Shinshi’s spouse hides her grief for years as an alternative of sharing it. One is a pretend engagement and the opposite is an actual marriage, however that type of factor occurs in relationships on a regular basis. Opening up is de facto arduous.
What Gonda says can be attention-grabbing. He’s jealous of Shinshi, even with the present growth, as a result of a minimum of he’s married (not to mention has a baby who wants him). Is it higher to like and lose than to by no means have cherished? I imagine this is without doubt one of the basic questions of the human situation, and never simply on a romantic degree. If we by no means expose ourselves emotionally, we restrict the potential for being damage. However we additionally deprive ourselves of the happiness that we will by no means really feel in an emotional bubble. That is actually what Rika and Takuya, achieved soloists, face when performing their wedding ceremony fiction. You downplay this topic at your peril, as they each uncover in no unsure phrases.
